It takes time, determination & perseverance. So be kind on yourself and build strong foundations to your excellence. Build strong habits to enable the move towards YOUR excellence. Allow yourself to be an EXCELLENT BEGINNER. Excellence is all about the journey and what lessons you learn along the way. It is not intended to be a destination, as after all who is ever just excellent?
Remember how long it takes to build, develop and cement a habit and be kind on yourself.
This statement made by the writers of the self-help “The Secret,” referring to a variation of the habit rule that says it takes 30 days:
“changing the habit will take 30 days, re-affirming it further for another 30 days will definitely fix it and you’ll have no problem to continue from there on.”
Changing a habit is never that simple. If it were, overeaters would all be thin, alcoholics would never relapse, and everyone would be up early enough to eat a healthy breakfast before work.
For most people, staying away from a bad habit is a lifetime effort, backed up by the fact that those well-worn synaptic pathways never go away. There is no apparent scientific reason why it would take three weeks to break an old habit or make a new habit. Depending on your unique physical and psychological make-up, it could take three weeks, it could take five days, or it could take nine months.
But there are some steps you can take to increase your chances of success in the endeavor, including:
- Take small steps. Don’t try to do everything at once.
- Only try to change one habit at a time.
- Write down the habit you want to change, and write down specific plans for achieving that goal. (Rather than writing “I will exercise,” write, “I will start walking 30 minutes twice a week, on Monday and Thursday, and I will wake up at 7 a.m., so I can walk before work on those days.”)
- Repeat the behavior you’re aiming for as often as you can. The more a behavior is repeated, the more likely it is that it will become “instinctive.”
Best of luck in bring an excellent beginner and remember to enjoy the journey!