Where is your happy place? The place where you feel most comfortable? Sofa, your bed, your garden, the beach, we all have one. Your comfort zone is actually not THAT comfortable.
It keeps you stagnant and a place where you plateau and don’t grow. The Comfort Zone is like a breeding place for self-doubt, lack of self-confidence, a place where you’re learning is on hold, where you allow your dreams and goals to be stalled, and you refrain from pursuing what you really really want. The great news is that you don’t have to continue to hold yourself prisoner within your comfort zone; you are empowered and free to ‘break free’ whenever you want! However you must be mentally ready, ready to commit to change and execute a new plan.
- Have a plan: First step – get it out of your head and onto paper! Take a two blank pieces of paper. Write down in a circle in the centre of the first page Your Comfort Zone and then draw from that a line with another circle and a word that identifies with why you’re in your comfort zone. Repeat. Understanding what is keeping you there and how it is making you feel will help you break this. Once you’ve finised your page, on a different page, write down in the centre of the page where you ultimately would like to be, and again write down words that identify with where you want to be. This is a really effective ‘brain dump’ exercise where you can begin to gain clarity, and identify the gap between where you are and where you want to be. It will help you identify what action is required.
- Circles of influence: This is easy. Who are you friends with, who is within your circle? How many contacts do you have in your phone memory, your face book, who follows you on Twitter, who are you connected with in LinkedIn? Do you have influence, or do you know people who have?
- Find a mentor: Who inspires you? Who do you want to be when you grow up? 🙂 Who do you look up to? Who do you admire? Who has a brilliant attitude? Ask someone who you identify with, that you look up to and share with them where you want to go. Share with them your plan, your thoughts and aspirations and they will give you food for thought, inspiration and encouragement. Contract with this person, get them to be your accountability partner. Check in regularly – communication is so very critical. This will encourage you to want to make changes and improve in between sessions. You don’t have to pay for an expensive coach, a great mentor will go some way, but over time its important to recognise that you may outgrow your mentor, you can outgrow your coach. Be mindful of your relationships and be aware that as you change and adapt, so will your needs.
- Visualize yourself : What you think about you bring about! So much is written about the sub conscious mind & it is extremely powerful and does not differentiate between reality & thoughts. Therefore it’s important to visualise yourself doing the things you are STOPPING from doing, or fearful of doing and visualize yourself as the type of person you want to become and achieving tasks successfully. Doing this often will put you in a productive and creative mindset to want to begin to make those changes. This will help to rid yourself of doubt that can set in.
- Try something new: Your comfort zone will keep you in place where you are not trying anything new; you’re not covering new territory in terms of the way you run your business and you are just going through the motions of everything you’ve done – this is what can make you feel flat and stagnant. Doing something new breaks that pattern, take small baby steps, this will grow your confidence. The small changes lead to bigger changes. Don’t start with the BHAG (big hairy audacious goals) – it’ll scare you off!
- Develop yourself further: Often, learning and personal development falls by the wayside when stuck within our comfort zone; when you’re comfortable where you are, you won’t have read or listened to material that you previously will have done to get you where you are. The mind is a very powerful thing, and by continually re focusing yourself towards the positive, and away from the negative, you will have a better chance to achieve your goals.
- Have some fun! A continuous theme of everything I do, discuss and plan. If it doesn’t make you happy change it!
I’ve used coaches and mentor in my career, all of whom are brilliant people. When I started my MLM business (Arbonne) and when I started the I Am Woman business club in Cheltenham with my business partner I used different coaches, as I was learning new skills, taking a different path and was aware that I needed to develop new attributes. I ran the London marathon 2012 – there is NO WAY I would have ever achieved this amazing achievement without the legend that is Kim Ingleby!
I actively everyone to seek out help from others, who will challenge your thinking and enhance your plan. So enjoy the journey. xox
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